Was his one night a mistake or will my guy cheat again?

I've been with this guy for 4 years. We always had plans to get married,we were totally in love. He worked at a summer camp every summer and we had plans to move in together and get married when we were both done.So this was his last summer of going to camp. Everything was going great, we saw eachother when we could. Then he came back home and was telling his family and friends that he was going to propose. Suddenly he calledme and asked if we could talk. He told me one night he got really drunk with his friends and ended up cheating on me. He was balling his eyes for 2 hours and he told me it was the worst mistake of his life, and how much he regretted it and that he did not want to lose me because I was his life and his future. He said he did not say anything because he did not want to lose me, but he knew he had to tell me. I did not talk to him for a month. he called me 60 times a day. I finally decided to take things slow . Did he just made a mistake or will he cheat again?Was his one night a mistake or will my guy cheat again?once a cheater always a cheater..Was his one night a mistake or will my guy cheat again?
Forgive him. He was drunk.

He could keep it as a secret and wouldn't told you about it if he didn't care.

I think he's a nice guy and honest about it.Was his one night a mistake or will my guy cheat again?Wow, that was very bold of him. i MAY give him a chance just because you can really see that it was a mistake that he regretted and not a secret affair that he hid from you, and that he really loves you. but you have to tell him that it's always going to be stuck in the back of your head. he did make a mistake but it was a terrible one that can ruin marriages and break up happy families. trust your heart and really ask yourself if you think he regretted it so bad that he will never do it again. it's really your decision. do take things really slow. from this point if you decide to stay with him you may have to start all over for him to earn your trust back. but if you cannot live with it, then why stay in a trustless relationship? take things slow and dont force yourself to make an immediate decision right now. distance yourself from him for the time being so he can feel the effects of his mistake. thats a tough one :(
I think it was a mistake. The fact that he told you is a big plus in my book. I agree take it slow and make him earn your trust. I don't think that he'll cheat again but you know him and I don't. Trust your gut.Was his one night a mistake or will my guy cheat again?I think that he did it on accident he was drunk It sounded like he was really sorry for it and you should give him another shot.Was his one night a mistake or will my guy cheat again?
Depends if he is really sorry or not. If he does it again just dump and find a different guy if he breaks yoru heart.
if you get this clear in your head then for the rest of your life you will never have to wonder....

"they ALL CHEAT!".........Was his one night a mistake or will my guy cheat again?
he wuz drunk,so u cud say dt he wuznt really himself

n d best part bout it iz he confessed it to u,which means he's honest to u n really care bout ur feelings..

dun lose him!
who knows
Although I'm not usually one to give people the benefit of the doubt, since, in this case, he came to you and confessed apparently on his own, I'd tend to believe him.



After all, if he was likely to cheat again, why get your suspicions up by telling you about it? In that case it'd be better for him to keep the secret and maintain your trust, rather than tell you and risk ruining it.
it's a postive thing that he told u..now whether he will cheat again, noone knows.u either trust him again and forget about the incident or u leave now. good luck..
Doesn't matter. You'll always know he was enjoying the sexual attention of another woman, and lying to you about it.. all the while promising to marry you. I don't know how you could ever kiss him, wondering where his lips have been. Gross.

Oh, and do you think, since he was so drunk he screwed some other girl, that he was sober enough to use protection, or will he be spreading disease or having a baby turn up later?

Drunk enough to have sex, but sober enough to use protection? Highly unlikely.
well, you know him more than i do (obviously)



but if he had the balls to tell you rather than hiding it, that might (MIGHT) show that it really WAS a mistake and that he honestly is sorry.



the other one is, he called you each day for a month, trying to talk to you about it.



i would take him back, BUT..



i would be careful..



i would tell him to LIMIT HIS DRINKING (but if he doesnt want it to happen again, he'll do it himself), and i'd ask him to call, kind of like a check in..



i just would be careful..



because 4 years didnt happen for nothing.
Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater. What's he going to do the next time he gets drunk? Or what about the next time he is on a business trip and away from you for a few nights.



You have to decide if this is what you want for your life. Can you forgive him and trust him again? Or will you always wonder, in which case the relationship is doomed.
Now if he was bawling his eyes out and really confesing to you what he did you know it had to be an accident!



I have a feeling this guy really loves you and dosen't want to lose you because he got quite a bit drunk. take it slow and watch him.



good luck!
he can't be trusted again, if he does it once, shame on him, if he does it twice, shame on you.
Nope no mistake he's cheatin again!!!
Thin about it he didn't have to tell you and you would probably not found out, he came clean and threw himself at your mercy and prayed your love was strong enough. I think you should forgive him as God forgives us all but make it a one time thing and make him give up drinking unless you are there with him.Hope you two get married
Once a cheat , always a cheat.
I am going to tell you what I tell everybody in those situations. you cant put anything past anybody. and "everybody is vunerable at one point or another, I dont care who you are. given the right situation, time and place anything can happen to ANYBODY".
yes he made a mistake. but i think when people get drunk they know exactly what they are doing on some level. yes he made a mistake. you have to forgive him if you want to. if didnt have to tell you. but out of love an respect he told an his guilt. if you think you have no more to offer to him you let it go and let him go. but if you wanna fight for you guys fight. if you fell he cant offer you anything then let him go. make a list and put pros an cons see which one outweighs the other one.
There really is no way for me to know, or really anyone. You have to decide, do you believe his story? and does he seem truly hurt? If he had gone for so long with being faithful, this could be just a random mistake, or it could be a little cry for trying a break. Not saying that he wants to, I'm just saying that if you have been together soo long you could try going a week without each other, (not trying to meet other people) but just seeing how you are not talking that amount of time. If it is miserable, you will know that you should be together, but if it works, then just try some time off.. If it is meant to be, you guys will find a way back to each other ;)
he did me too...he's a lousy lay, you can have him back
He will do it again.



Im a guy, im speaking from experience.