Not into one night stands?

This girl has asked me to make love to her as one of her mates has told her which would be an ex/ex that im exciting in bed why i cant possibly say why shes bothered in saying this but how do i mention to this girl that the last thing i am interested in is a one night stand without heer thinking im not interested? Shes a really nice girl but all shes interested in is sex and that dont do it for me never has but shes worth dateing and getting to know as she has many other qualities apart from the fact that she can sleep with someone without really knowing them or dateing them so how would you girls react to a response to this and how would you feel about the bloke if he blew you out because he doesnt do one night stands ??Not into one night stands?No need to be rude people, the guys asking a personal question!!!



Well, seeing as she sounded like a very...sexual girl, then i'm guessing she was probably a little insulted that you didn't want to have sex with her. Maybe she said something like "Your loss" but her ego was proabaly bruised, she may even be wondering what was wrong with her because she offered sex and you turned it down, which is against the social norm. She's probably a little upset or angery and might make up excuses on your end which are most likely unture (like your gay or something).



Personally, i'm not into one night stands either, i perfer meaningful relationships over loveless sex anyday. I think it's sweet that you are the same way, it's horrible that guys are expected to be sex-obsessed horndogs.Not into one night stands?
do itNot into one night stands?ewww dude get a life!



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ill do it 4 u... but anyways y not have sex w/her? enjoy it or she will hate you. also depends on your age to so whateva.Not into one night stands?LOL. I never met a man who didnt do one night stands. Oh lord help me theres something wrong with youre wiring. **** im gonna die of laughter here at my desk.Not into one night stands?
be like well im not into sex on the first date

lets take this slow and say how much you like her and everything sweet.
what?Not into one night stands?
Yeah, right. pfft.
one night stands are amazingg./:
Tell her how you feel. she shouldn't pressure into anything!

Tecnically, its your call cause your the guy!
I'd respect your decision to not take a one night stand. Ask her if you can take her out on a date, and see where it goes from there. If she's only after sex then leave her to someone else. You sound like you have too much respect for yourself to just go sleeping around.
dooooo ittttt!!!!
i think if i asked a guy for a one night stand and he rejected me it wouldn't be that bad, probably a little crushing because i'd feel like i wasn't attractive, but then if you go on to tell her that you want to date her and get to know her and that meaningless sex just isn't your thing i wouldn't feel that bad. but if this girl is looking to have sex i dont really think dating and a relationship is what she would want right now. you can try but i dont know how it would work out.
be honest tell her how you feel
Let her find someone into one night stands.



She is missing out on having a good relationship..pity.



You will find a girl who wil appreciate you.
As nice as she maybe this is not the type of girl you should start dating. Every guy that she has done that to will be laughing at you, and she might not be one of the most faithful people. Please go with you instinct on this one, find you another nice young lady, who doesnt want to have sex with people they dont know just to see how good it is.
maybe if you are exciting in bed it will peek her intertest in you more and you can date her.





either way i dont understand why you are typing on yahoo answers instead of tapping that ***
I would never be in that position hopefully.....but i would most definitely respect you for the fact that almost every guy would jump at the chance to get some sweet sex no strings attached ,,,,,so I'd think your a keeper and try to work on getting the whole package instead.
If you don't wanna have sex with women YOU'RE GAY!
id probably be rather mad but yea maybe you shouldnt date her because i if shes into sex that much she could probably cheat without a second thought

so yea...i wouldnt date her unless you really have strong feelings for her.
You answered your own question, you should just say exactly what you said here. If she doens't appreciate your honesty and integrity then she's not worth it!
OMG u must be one in a million!!!!!

Tell her you would like to get to know her first before going any further, just be honest, if she don't love that then she's a sl*g.
Tell her what you told us.
Girls who are just into one night stands are not worth it. They'll be doing that sh*t their whole lives. If you don't wanna do it, then don't do it.
You say she's worth dating - why not ask her on a date? Otherwise, just be honest with her that you're not into one-night stands. It's her job to respect that. There is the danger that she won't believe you, but you can't do anything about that except tell the truth.



ADDED: From your additional details, it sounds like maybe she may just be too fast for you, i.e. you aren't compatible. I think you're just going to have to do what women have been doing most of the time, letting her have the goodnight kiss and then coyly saying goodnight or whatever, saying "I'm not ready yet" and things like that. I dunno man, thinking about it, this doesn't seem like a problem for you really. I don't get the impression you have much to lose either way. You two are going to give it a try and see if it works out. Sometimes people compromise their standards and see what that gets them. Sometimes they hold their ground. Either way, you never said you really are into this girl or anything, so if things don't work out, you'll be able to walk away from it without feeling bad. Just keep being honest. Your sincerity is your safety ticket through this experience.
I'd respect the guy a whole hell of a lot more than I respected myself (if I did one night stands, which I don't). I'd actually be a little ashamed of myself, but not if the guy actually told me he wanted a relationship. Just tell her the truth about how you feel toward her, if you're willing to overlook the fact that she's willing to have a one night stand.
Just tell her that you are interested, but you dont want to jump to things too fast! I recomend waiting until your married to have sex...its the right thing to do...but a lot of people do that anyway because they think they will be satisfied but they arent...they are really searching for Jesus' love!
Just say you're looking for a real relationship and not just meaningless sex. I respect that Idea. You're kind of like that guy in "Good Luck Chuck".
I think its a good thing if you turn her offer down god knows how many blokes she,s been with!