Give it up. That's one of the oldest "tricks" in the book: trapping a man into a relationship or marriage.
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One night stand baby?Yes, he is the father of your child that's why it is normal. Does not matter if it was once, it happened and you are tied to him forever.GO ON MAURYOne night stand baby?I guess it`s basic instinct.
Have you considered giving a baby away and move on?One night stand baby?
You are joking, how can you say that you love him after he is swearing up and down that this kid is not his and most likely calling you names like sl*t, whore and gang-banger. You are feeling this way because you know he is the father and would hope that after all is said and done, he will turn around and be a permanent fixture in your lives. The truth is, he is probably not going to be involved in your baby's life. After the tests are done and the identity is proven just get the child support and move on. You do not want a guy who did not want to be with you for more than a few hours to part of a life he did not want to be a part of in the first place.
There is a reason for everything. This sounds like that movie when fools rush in. It could be good. but remember you have a baby now you need to make the right decisions for you and your baby.
in this case hun, i say go for your babies daddy. i dont kno my dad and wish i did. only if he is worth itOne night stand baby?
No. This is highly abnormal. If this comes off as "strong," then good. That is my desired intent.
Before addressing wanting the guy to be in your life, how about addressing why you're having unprotected sex??? The minute he pulled the condom off, that should have been a deal-breaker.
Secondly, why did it come to that, in the first place? Why not have control over your hormones, rather than them taking control of you. Would it have killed you to wait a few months, or even a few weeks, before getting intimate?
Thirdly, worse than ending up with an unplanned pregnancy and now a child, you exposed yourself to a plethora of sexually transmitted diseases! Some of which have no cure! Not to mention that, had he transmitted Chlamydia to you, your future ability to reproduce might be terminate! You should be tested. You certainly owe your child that much. Furthermore, this guy you chose (without any forethought) to share this joy with is denying the child! How choice.
Fourth, what makes fathering a child a qualification for becoming someone's life partner? You know virtually nothing about this guy, but you're ready to not only involve him in your life, but your child's as well. What if mental illness runs in his family? What if neurofibromatosis, dwarfism, mental retardation, Porphyria, Cystic Fibrosis, Hemophilia, or any other of the scores of thousands of other conditions his genes could carry, is passed on to your child.
You had a child with a man that you know nothing about. You also know nothing of his family.
Before you plan on entwining your life with his, how about building your own sense of self-esteem, so that you don't make any more foolish mistakes like this one. Make the best of this "instant parent" thing, and maintain contact with the guy. Sixteen years from now, your child may have questions for you about him, if not, sooner. How will you look not knowing the basics to give to your child? Keep the line of communication open with this guy, and don't come off too strong. Find out all you can from and about him and his family, so that you'll be able to share all you know with your child. You owe them that much.
Also, forget having a real relationship with this guy who just thought enough of you to have a quick bang, and didn't think highly enough of you to leave the condom on. Your child deserves to have a mother who can offer him or her something other than a bunch of siblings because she didn't know any better. Come on. Please.
yes its normal get a nda testing, and the get child support so that the baby can have what he wants.
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