Then he went to see the other guy, and he told him the truth also (our stories obviously matched but he was dubious, and who can blame him)
Its been 6 weeks since I told him, and he is desperately trying to forgive me, but he says now he knows who and where and at what time, he cant listen to certain TV programmes or songs or drive through certain places. He has flashes of rage and anger and violance and flashes of heartbreaking crying. He says it is a living and breathing monster not and I have allowed him to find out so much. he says I am doing nothing (even though I am pledging my love to him and apologising over and over) just carrying on like normal. he says I should have battled it out etc etc. He says I cant just tell him i love him, because I always told him that. I need to show him. How? Please help.After my regrettable one night stand...please help.?You tramps need to learn that even when guys ask for them, they don't need details. Its entertainment enough to rip his heart out. Do you really need to eat it right in front of him, too?After my regrettable one night stand...please help.?
It's good that you told him, now you need to give him time to trust you again. It won't happen overnight. Saying the words doesn't mean much, actions speak louder than words. Eventually he is going to have to forgive you and move past it or leave altogether.
It will most likely be a long and difficult road ahead of you both and I wish you the best of luck getting past it.After my regrettable one night stand...please help.?Ya know ... some things can't be fixed.
Why are you in here asking US, instead of groveling on the floor in front of HIM, asking HIM what he needs you to do to show him?
Frankly, you don't deserve him.
obviously he would be devastated! he will recover slowly but definately. Patience please.After my regrettable one night stand...please help.?fix him up with a nice girl...After my regrettable one night stand...please help.?
I have been there, done that except I was the one who was cheated on. There is nothing you can do that will be an immediate fix. Betrayal is very difficult to overcome, and most people never overcome it completely.
Your words are definitely sounding like BS to him right now, no matter how sincere you may be. After my husband's affair, I wanted every detail of where he was, who he was with, when he would be home, etc......his cell phone was required to be an open book and I compared what I found with what the cell company said his calls were just to be sure he hadn't deleted anything. Basically, everything about him HAD to be an open book to begin the process of me trusting him again.
It's been two years now and although I feel like I trust him completely now.......small things will still cause me to doubt him sometimes, even if those doubts are really unwarranted. I still find myself periodically checking his phone and his phone records......just to reassure myself that I'm not being played again. (So far so good btw)
Your partner's reaction to all this is very normal and doesn't surprise me at all. You will be questioned and doubted on a regular basis for a while. Your actions have to prove that you can be trusted. Your partner will probably be doing alot of checking behind you just to see if you are being honest. If you can't handle that, then I suggest you get out of the relationship. That's simply the price you pay for stepping out.
You have broken the bond of trust and the way he is acting you may or may not get it back with him.
How can you be so in love with him and yet you had a one night stand with another man? That is why he don't want to hear "I love you" coming out of your mouth.
Only time will tell if he will ever trust you again. You just have to bite the bullet and be on your best behavior at all times.
It will not be easy to mend this relationship but if you really want him then give it your best shot.
Good luck...you are going to need it.After my regrettable one night stand...please help.?
well first off you didn't understand the rules of the game and that is you never, never, ever tell. Now you don't understand the second rule and that is guys can't handle it. A lot of women forgive and accept and move on but men can't do it. You and him are done and over unless you are going to be happy being his slave and that's no relationship. Its over, its done he can't handle it and he never will.
I went through the SAME thing with my wife. I confronted both her and the other guy and found out TOO MUCH information. Since I found that information out every time I go pass a hotel that they used or hear a certain song ALL I THINK about is what she did.. The bad thing about it is this happened 8 years ago and I still think about it.
There are some things that you can't fix but you can show your partner that he is number one in your life by giving him all your love.
My wife calls me all the time to let me know where she is, tells me to stop by her work place to see her and doesn't go out AT ALL..All of this helps and that's why I'm still with her but I still don't trust her and I still have not forgotten what she did.
You can never undo what has happened and my only advice is accept the consequences and repercussions that goes with your action. You are weak, and you placed yourself in a very vulnerable position wherein the one night stand easily occured. And you broke the heart and ruined the life of a person who truly loved and cared for you in exchange for what, a night of pleasure with a stranger whose only interest is what is underneath your pants. A lifetime of regrets and guilt for seconds of earthly bliss and pleasure. and now you ask yourself, was it worth it?
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