Ralationship or one night stand (fwb)?? help im confused!?

i currently have an interest in two girls and i must say, im torn.



i basically have to decide what would be more worth it in the end, so im looking for an opinion from someone who has expereinced both sides of my situation.



one girl, we will call her samantha.. has been a friend of mine for a few years. the reason we were just friends was because we were both in love and in long term ralationships (which ended up lasting for over a year for each of us) but despite the situation.. every time we passed each other in the halls we got butterflies. (we have since discussed this) and have always had a strong physical attraction towards one another. well her and i are hanging out tomorrow and things could very well happen.. and im thinking, wow years of suppressed feelings in one amazing session.. how amazing would it be? and not just a one night stand... maybe more of a friends with benefits thing, we have talked about this and feel the same way for each other. since she just got out of her relationship more recently then i, she said she likes me but is not ready for a boyfriend or relationship. so im thinking, wow, if something were to happen it would be passionate and maybe very well worth it...



now the twist is..



another girl and i ... we will call her carly.. have been flirting for a few months now. we talk quite a bit and i have been thinking about pursuing a relationship between her and i. i feel like with her we could have a long term relationship of a few months or longer and we would be taking it slow...





the first thought is well what are you in it for, action or possbly love.

follow your heart or penis..

which i understand...



but both seem like very very tempting options. they are also friends so i couldnt tell 'carly' that i liked her and later have stuff happen betwen me and 'samantha' because that would ruin my chances with both girls.. and my goal isnt to be a player here. i just want to make the best of the situation.



now hopefully someone that has been on both sides of the spectrum will read this..



is passionate sex in a one night stand and possibly more with someone that your very very attracted to and whom gives you butterflies worth it over pursuing a long term relationship with a girl you like but who is more.. innocent, you could say?Ralationship or one night stand (fwb)?? help im confused!?That sounds like wham ban thank you man to meRalationship or one night stand (fwb)?? help im confused!?
Which ever one you choose your going to every now and then think you've made a mistake and want the other one.Ralationship or one night stand (fwb)?? help im confused!?I don't see any heart here (even if you think otherwise). Follow your penis. If you find heart along the way, good for you. But it is not a concern at the moment.
relationships and fwb both have their advantages and disadvantages.

I guess its what your pursuing that counts.

Do you want to settle down and commit to a long relationship which may lead to marraige.

Or do you just want some hot sex.

And judging that story i guess your a teenager?

Seriously, relationships at this stage of your life will get NO WHERE =]

Trust me.

I'd go for samanthaRalationship or one night stand (fwb)?? help im confused!?This was a well written and described situation.

But since I'm a chick - my answer is to go with love over sex.

I don't think you should try sleeping with either of the girls until you are in a committed relationship with one of them.



It's obvious that you are an intelligent and caring guy - good for you - but something else you need to know is from the women's perspective - how sex is for us.



Many girls will engage in sex acts with a guy simply because they believe sex = love. They mistakenly think that if a guy wants to have sex with her - he must love her. We both know that's not true. Guys will have sex because it feels good. So think of it that way... maybe both of these girls would get involved with you - but is one night really worth hurting these girls in the long run?



We all have to take chances in life. So - be a man and pick the one you most are interested in - while gently letting the other one know and if it works out great - if not, you are too young to be too broken hearted. You'll date lots of women - just don't try to sleep with them all.



Be the guy that girls remember 10 years from now and smile about - because you genuinely cared about her and used your head and heart and not what's between your legs.



Good luck, Keep Smiling!Ralationship or one night stand (fwb)?? help im confused!?
if ure under 17 go with carly if ur over go with steph ur old enough 2 start a serious realtionship! =)
I met my husband in Aug 98, he just came back from the Army. While he was in the Army (in Washington), he was dating a girl, Kim. My husband came back home to PA, to join the National Guard and go to college.



The agreement my husband and Kim had was they still be dating but could see people for sex only. Well, I met my husband for exactly that...sex. At first we both thought it would be a one night stand. However it soon grew into freindship, then lovers. I knew about Kim from the start. A couple months down the road, my husband was torn between Kim and I. He fell in love with me, but still had feelings for Kim. He even visited her for xmas. Which is when he realize their relaionship is not going to last. However, he didn't want to do the breakup.



So all this time him and I were just friends with benefits. Although to my family and friends...it looked like we were dating. April 99, Kim finally offically broke it off with my husband. May 2000, my husband proposed to me.





In your case, having sex with your long term friend may ruin the friendship. Yet, it may add to it. I say, go for the sex...for now. See how things turn out. If you and her get further apart, then ask this other girl out. If you and the friend gets closer, then you know who you should be with. Maybe this friend is the love of your love, you just have to take it to the next step.



Life have complications. You just have to choose which path to take. If that path is the wrong one, you can always choose the other path. However it is wise not to walk both paths at the same time.



Good Luck.Ralationship or one night stand (fwb)?? help im confused!?
Ok, Well I've sorta been in this situation before. This guy i met, We had an instant attraction to each other! I thought it was going to be a one night stand.. Well it was but then the next night we went out on a date and 7 months later we were still together! I can honestly say I'm in love with this person! You never know where things can go! Also I think Carly is too young for you! I mean.. whats gonna happen when u graduate? She still has her whole high school years! I think you should def. choose Samantha! But u also have to choose what u feel is right! All i know is i went with the Hot Sex version and It was the best 7 months of my life!!! LOL (He joined the navy so thats why were not together anymore In case you were wondering LOL)