How to deal with my step son from my husband's college one night stand? It's harder now that I have a child.

This happened 9 years ago. We have been together for three years now. My step sons mother was in love with my hubby for a long time. She tries to start trouble any way she can. She tells her son that my son is not his bro b/c he is not from her. I also have a hard time dealing with the thought of my husband bearing a child with this other woman. I feel like I want my son to be more special to my husband, because we made our son out of love. My step son was concieved from a one night stand with a woman he didnt even like. He says he was waisted. It doesn't make me feel special that my hushand loves them the same. I know that sounds selfish. That is why I am asking for some good advice. My step son is a good kid; he loves my son. I can't complain about that. I feel very fortunate that my step sons mother is very unattractive. My hubby can't stand looking at her and he is embarrest of her. I feel a little better that he never cared for her. Help! How do I deal with this?How to deal with my step son from my husband's college one night stand? It's harder now that I have a child.If you couldn't deal with this, you should have said so before you got married and had babies with this man. Now you MUST find a way to cope. What you need to do is separate this child and his mother in your head. You say he's a good kid, so you need to develop a maternal love for him.



A couple of times a day, sit alone and quiet yourself. Then close your eyes and visualize hugging this child, both when he was little and now. If thoughts of his mother creep in, chase them out immediately. Just hug this kid in your head. If you do this diligently, it may help you connect.



Sure hope it helps. This kid didn't ask for this situation, and he deserves to have his Dad. And you really loving him would be such an added bonus.How to deal with my step son from my husband's college one night stand? It's harder now that I have a child.
hahaha. she is unattractive and couldn't stand looking at her but had the courage to sleep with her.. your hustband just couldn't admit that in one point of his life, he got attracted to her.

spare the boy. the child shouldn't be punished for his parents sins.How to deal with my step son from my husband's college one night stand? It's harder now that I have a child.ignore her! do whats right if she does anything illegal call the policeHow to deal with my step son from my husband's college one night stand? It's harder now that I have a child.
In my opinion, their is really nothing that you can do. Your son now is younger than his other child, so you knew the situation when you choose to have a child with him and marry him. I can understand your feelings, because it is so hard to find a good man without any baggage from his past. But that child is a part of your family now and deserves love too. If you love ur husband, you must love alll of him, because both of his children are a part of his life. Please dont be like my step parents, who always showed me deep down they resented or didnt truely love me. Its unfair enough that that childs parents are not together and he has a step mother who resnts him, because believe me kids can sense insincerity. And the WORST thing you can do is try and keep your husband from his child, please dont be so selfish and think of the child too, he deserves a father, and in a fantasy world ur hubby would be all yours but in reality this is the case. He is still ur husband, but he is also someone elses daddy too.How to deal with my step son from my husband's college one night stand? It's harder now that I have a child.Reality check time... you aren't going to like it but you asked. Sorry.



The way I see it you aren't such a great person yourself. Your husband has a 9 year old kid... from the sound of it you KNEW that when you married him. Now that you have a kid you want your husband to love your son more... wow, that just sounds horrible.



Not that his other son's Mom is any better: "She tells her son that my son is not his bro b/c he is not from her." Why would either of you want to punish the kids for what the Dad did?!



You should do what you can to love both your son and your stepson. Yeah, so you aren't happy with how your stepson came about... that's not HIS fault. Don't punish him for his parent's actions... and if you can't get past it maybe you should have thought about that before marrying his Dad.

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