My husband has had one night stands with women before he met me.?

First of all, I would like to state that me and my husband are very happy together and we've been together 5 year. He is almost the perfect man.

The thing that's bothering me is I found out from him that he's had 2 one night stands with women before he met me. One night stand meaning blowjobs and hand jobs. He's also had sex with one other woman before me. I lost my virginity with him.

The issue is, he had always acted like he was so gentlemen like(sorry, I'm bad with words) that I never thought that at one point in his life he would stoop so low to have one night stands with women. It unnerves me and I've told him how I felt. But he told me he can't undo the past. He never said he was stupid for it or that he regretted it. It makes me so upset he would do something like that for the heck of it. I thought he was different from other men.

NOTE: I still love him and we are still very happy together, but this comes to mind every so often and I get very depressed. I don't have anyone I could talk to. Please help me.My husband has had one night stands with women before he met me.?what happens in the past stays in the past. you keep bring this up all you are going to do is cause problems... thats why they are called one night stand everything goes.. and you know what you should be proud that you saved your virginity for that special someone, but if you keep bring up the past that had nothing to do with you your just going to push him away. drop it and leave it alone... and if your still very happy then you shouldn't be bring up these one night stands.,My husband has had one night stands with women before he met me.?
This man did this before he met you so i dont know what the issue is, why are you so uneasy about this this man? obviously he loves you dont worry sweetie that's his past and your his future sure he's been naughty but that was before he met you so just focus on your man and your marriage.My husband has had one night stands with women before he met me.?What happened in the past should stay in the past. Fact is your man isn't perfect and hey neither are you so get over yourself! What he did sexually before he met you is really none of your business. What matters is how he has been since he met you! This is why people should never tell their current partners about past sexual experiments!
Why should he have to tell you it was stupid and that he regrets it???? what happened before he met you is his business and it isn't your place to pass judgement. You seem pretty tightly wound. Stop being such a prissy little prude and grow up...it's not that big of a deal.My husband has had one night stands with women before he met me.?EDIT: Obviously you thumb-down every answerer that doesn't agree with you and let you pity, pity, pity and whine.

Well, you pay for your sadness.

YOU DECIDE HOW YOU'RE GOING TO FEEL.

So don't ask us if you don't want our perspective.My husband has had one night stands with women before he met me.?
People do stupid things when there young. Alcohol was probably a factor. maybe not. Hes right he can't undo the past but he can learn from it and know what he did was foolish.
ok, so now you know he isn't different from other men meaning he likes sex.



at least he don't like d*ck.



quit complaininMy husband has had one night stands with women before he met me.?
you going to bring unwanted trouble into your life if his past bothers you.

let it alone.
So?

All happened before you were around?

Grow up and stop acting like a wack job
you are making a big deal out of something that is not a big deal and also happened in the past. you need to get over it. he's with you now isnt he? it is not necessary for him to feel stupid or regret his past. he is not the one having a problem with it...you are. its actually ok for him to have the opinion that what he did in the past was fun and have a good memory of it. that has nothing to do with how he feels about you. you are causing problems with your insecurities. you need to leave it alone now
Sorry. One night stands would also bother me, but on the other hand he sounds like he respects women more than a lot of other men do, since he has had so few partners. It sounds to me like he would undo the past if he could, so he probably regrets it even if he's not saying that explicitly. A lot of men aren't strong enough to ignore their hormones and have casual sex but for me the real issue would be whether you feel loved or not. Like my former husband had a girlfriend before me and it never bothered me until I started to feel ignored and that's when I got all bothered by his past. And thinking and talking about it just made it worse. I realize the real issue wasn't the past but the present. If you are happy with your husband you're lucky.
why did he even bother to tell you? must have known it would bother you.

this is a perfect example of why people should keep their sex life to themselves,yes,even from spouses. it doesn't make a bit of difference,only causes one to have resentment.

13 years with 1st wife,no idea of her sexual past.

18 years with 2nd wife,only limited info about her sexual past. we both know it does not matter.

you need to get past this or you will never be happily married.
Uh..what is the problem? Millions and trillions of people on this earth have had one night stands. It is something that is rather common among normal people. You seem to be the exception and that is ok..great for you. Just leave the man alone and wait for a real problem. If he has had only three women in his life then you ought to be showing him off and waiving a banner instead of whining about it. Be glad that he experienced others before you so he could chose the right one for him for life. Now..get out there and apologize to him for being so silly about this very trivial matter and leave him alone.