Married one night stand?

I got married last feb. to a guy I dated for about a year. While we were dating we broke up several times and got back together. He was always dating (and sleeping with) other girls while we were separated and I was always alone and missing him. The last time we got back together he asked me to marry him and for some reason I said yes. I thought I was really in love , but after we got married i really started having regrets about getting married. Everyone I knew tried to tell me that i was rushing it and at the time i didn't want to listen, I am 25 so figured i waited long enough, especially living where most ppl get married really young. Well after we had only been married 6 months he joined the air force and has been gone for training and school since. Things have been really hard on both of us. I have a couple friends at work and we hang out on our off days and go to the bar to drink and play pool. Last week a really nice looking guy came up and started talking to me. We talked a bit about each other and I told him I was married and haven't seen my husband in 5 months. By the time the night was ending we were both kinda tipsy and had our hands all over one another and he asked me to text him and gave me his number. So, we flirted a bit via text over about the next week. The next time i hung out with som ppl i called and invited him. He drove about 45 minutes to hang out again. We got kinda drunk and the next thing I knew we were all over each other again and i was kissing him. I spent the night with him that night and we had sex several times. He even wanted to lay there and hold me after. The next day he drove me 40 minutes home and when he was leaving asked me to call him, and if I could text at work ( i told him I am not a big phone talker). Not thirty minutes later he was texting me saying (you left something at my place :) ) I have never done anything like this before. I have been cheated on, but I have never cheated. I know my husband loves me, but I don't feel like I am in love with him anymore and I am at a loss. To make matters worse I don't know what this means. Did I just have a one night stand ? or is this guy seriously liking me? He would say things that make me think he likes me , he even told me "I really like you and thats unusual for me " and "you are so beautiful" but was that just to get me into bed? He seems sincere,but I don't know what to do. I am not happily married and have not been with my husband in 5 months. I don't even feel like talking to my husband anymore when he calls. I'm not sure what to do. If I get a divorce it will be because I am unhappy and no longer in love , not bc of this other guy. I just really want to know if this was just a one night stand or should I expect to hear from this guy again? Does it seem like he has feelings that go beyond that one night?Married one night stand?Marriage is not a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship it is a VOW made before God a covenant an outh a promise and it's not to be taken lightly. your husband is away defending our American freedoms and your out having affairs. It's not good you have to make decisions for yourself but you need to tell your husband what happened with that other guy and stop being so needy you should be able to maintane being aloneMarried one night stand?
honey, you still got lots of growing up to doMarried one night stand?From someone who was in the military and have seen this a number of times including happening to me. I hope your husband divorces you and leaves you with nothing.Married one night stand?
Hmm does sound like this other fellow is interested in you. He's been texting you still? Thats a sign he's into you. BUT, you should probably talk to him and ask him what exactly he would like from this relationship. He may think you're just looking for a few nights of fun here and there when your husband isn't around.



I mean, imagine if you divoriced your husband to find out this other guy just wanted sex...



You are very inexperienced with marriage, and you don't have good communication with your partner at all. This is probably the reason why you feel so distanced from him. It sounds like you can't look at the big picture of his plans.



Also, just because he slept with women while you two broke up before marriage does not make it okay for you to sleep around while he's away. Plus the drinking excuse was pretty bad....you need to do some maturing.Married one night stand?Unfortunately, there are a lot of people, probably more than you realize, that know what it means to be alone. Imagine how some widows feel that have had their husband's die in duty? I'm sorry to hear how hard this has been on you, but have you thought of how hard this is on your husband as well? Just because your husband is away, doesn't mean you're alone, if you both "truly" loved each other enough to get married, then you should love each other enough to get through this. Nothing in life is easy, that's life :( but you have to make decisions that will be productive and not destructive to yourself and the person that you've given your heart to and made promises to as well.



Whether you're religious or not (which I am) you made a vow to him to love him no matter what, through the good times AND the bad, etc, etc. How would you feel if you were in his shoes %26amp; this happened? The past is the past, what matters now is the present %26amp; the future. The fact is that you are married and that it's not just an old car that you should discard with no regard, he's a human being, that you care(d) about at one time (and hopefully still do) and should do whatever you can to make it work, otherwise some day you might look back at all of this and wonder "what if I had..." and for what, a guy that made you "feel good"? What does this say about this "new" guy's charcter if it's okay with him to be with a married woman, especially since her husband is off fighting for the entire country we live in. How disrespectful is he towards your husband, his country and to you for that matter. If you're even thinking of being with him, what makes you think he wouldn't do the same thing with someone else?



As someone with experience thinking "what if" and "the grass looks greener on the other side" please stop %26amp; think about what you're doing. If you're truly unhappy with your husband, at least respect him enough to tell him %26amp; seperate before you treat someone like that - you wouldn't want to be treated like that either.



Have you seen the movie Fireproof? I would sincerely suggest watching it, it was an amazing experience for both my husband %26amp; I!



Hope you're able to work through all of this for the better.